I think my guys cheating on me  

Im not so sure coz his friends are backing him up...

i always have that notion that guys have this conspiracy when it comes to cheating....       they always try to cover up for him and make excuses!!!

but i dont really know what to do? coz im not that 100% sure about it... I only saw the messages they send to each other... and if youre gonna ask me i think its kinda mushy!

Should i act after i caught him red handed?

confronting him didnt do any good! of course "deny, deny, deny" golden rule ryt?!!!!

What are your suggestions?

i dont want to be onesided... i heard advices from my girlfriend but i also want to hear what guys think about it. tnx

Hmmm...

You cannot generalize that guys back up fellow guys when they are cheating. I mean I won't and I know my friends won't back me up if ever I do cheat. There's no sense of amturity and honor in that. And for a lot of guys, this honor is something that they take pride upon.

Definitely you shold act if you've caught him red handed. No use of playing the self pity role IMO....

Tell him you will not tolerate any of that stuff. For me, mushy messages is still a weak basis. But any messages or getures to that girl that signify that he is playing around, then that's the time you drop the whole thing altogether. Not worth keeping if he cna't keep his hands to his sides.

Do not let paranoia get into you. Becausse you may never know if you're wrong or right. Kep a clear mind about it

youre right... i know i could get paranoid....

the thing is this, i confronted him ryt? he knows i wont put up with it... but of course theres the power of denial!!! and heres the good part... he starts with the "why? dont you trust me" lines... he keeps telling me the girl and him are good friends and all that! for crying out loud... the girl is drooling over him... i couldnt get it if he doesnt see it or he's enjoying it!

Im not the type who'll break up with someone unless im pretty sure that IM REALLY GOIN TO LEAVE HIM...

Im sure its just my lousy jealousy... im pretty sure, things will clear out soon.... tnx anyway

i agree with what ray said. make sure first and dont be so paranoid about it! if ever are there any other things u notice...any other fishy stuff? i really hope things would work out!

never pressume and assume...verify and then confront!  

Know what you want and work around it...

  There are hundreds of reasons man cheats on woman , its not necessarily the guy did it for no reason if applicable to the instincts . Is he doing it maybe may nagawa ka di na niya gusto or he was disappointed to you ?? If it is , then dont worry about confronting because it is a sign of love with limitations . Iwan mo na , rahter suffer the pain temporarily than wait for the future to be ur burden forever .

Quote from: sheeezzz on February 23, 2004, 12:02:03 AM

"why? dont you trust me" lines... he keeps telling me the girl and him are good friends and all that! for crying out loud... the girl is drooling over him... i couldnt get it if he doesnt see it or he's enjoying it!

Hehehe. That line really is typical of guys. You'll hear that more from guys than from girls (although in my case, I heard more from a gilr. Hahahaha )

He's got you there. You have no choice but to trust him. I mean, one of the foundations of a relationship is trust. Of course, if you really can't trust him with what has happened so far, then I don't think it would be wise to try and force something that may be completely gone

You're right. Do try to look out for signs that say things are not going to be the same anymore. Patience is key

Hope everything works out fine between the two of you

text messages are a weak basis to accuse your boyfriend of cheating...

act with discretion..and always be ready for the consequences of any witch hunting for evidence you might want to embark on

investigate silently first before you accuse your bf.be sure and think first before you do something that you might regret at the end.

hirap i prove na nang 22time ang bf. dapat caught in the act talaga.
medyo guys back each others up nga when it comes to that. pero HINDI LAHAT ganyan.

good luck nalang. try mo yun sinabi ng mga ibang fafas. heheheheheh

hope you guys are still ok...
cool lng po muna,,, kc kng mali po ung hinala...it myt b d reason 4 a bad ending...
or if ur not satisfied... get ur guys cp...
text all names(that u dont know...that to u,seems to be a girl, khit guys name un...) ng miss n kita!Ü mwah!Ü
tpos kng ngreply asap ng miss u too!Ü naku....
ung friend ko n girl gnawa nya... pero mdjo ibang klase...
she erased the girls name(ung hinihinala) tpos she used a diff sim... she texted his bf using also d girls' name... sayin miss u and mwah nga pa tweetums... ngreply bf nya sa kanya ng gnun din... naku po...
ayan... umiyak ng umiyak ng umiyak...
wawa nga po tlaga... tpos eto nmn tong kaibigan ko,, hanggang sa dulo, nag dedeny! me ksabwat pa... di ko kc nalaman agad kaya di ko natulungan ung friend ko n girl...

That's the reason why it's hard to do that undercover work. You will be doing something in where you know the consequences but then you would go about it anyway. Not all kinds of pride and dignity can take that.

The best means is still communication with your BF. Not necessarily confrontation, but to continually keep your minds open to each other. Yes I know we can debate all day about that open mind and stuff, but for something like this, you really have to eh.

R-A-Y's right, kailangan dito open communication. It's easy to assume pero malaki ang damage kapag mali pala ang assumption. There are little signs naman na mapapansin mo kapag may ginagawang kalokohan dahil kahit paano kilala mo na siya. Pray for it din, it REALLY helps!  

oo. wag padalos-dalos... talk it out. don't accuse muna... guys can get defensive eh...

Factors lang to ah.
1.Baka naman sobrang guwapo ang BF mo.
2.O kaya naman super rich naman,or may pera expect mo na yan kung ganun ang mga specs ng guy(sa bagay uso naman to ngayon panahon kabitan blues sa mga may pera).
3.Coz ganun ang ibang guy mas gusto nilang sabihin na jerk sila,siyempre macho sila nun.
4.Baka naman hindi talaga matino ang bf mo talagang mahilig lang maglaro ng apoy (break mo na lang siya).
5.Sheezzzz wala ka bang kuya,pinsan na lalaki or father mo open mo sa kanya to.
O kaya naman sa mom mo.
Baka war naman kayo ng parents mo.
6.Baka  may ginawa kang mali para ganunin ka ng BF mo(kasi kung mahal ka nun hindi gagawin sa iyo yan).
7.Baka naman demading ka kaya naghahanap ng iba.
8.Baka naman sinasakal mo kaya naglilihim sa iyo.
9.Baka naman mataas ang mga expectation mo sa kanya na hindi naman ganun ang mga personalities niya.
10.Kainin ang pride baka naman mataas rin ang pride mo ibang guys ayaw nila yun.
11.Ilan taon,month,or days kayo ng BF mo?(medyo ot na to pero dito natin malalaman.)
12.Kung years na kayo sa relationship at least alam mo na ang ugali niya.
13.Baka may tinatago kang sikreto na nalaman niya then hindi niya matanggap (e.g. naka 5 bf ka na,nilalaro mo siya,or even worst you are not a virgin anymore).
14.Tama sila huwag maging paranoid.
15.Be true to yourself baka naman ikaw ang nagsusumiksik sa kanya ayaw naman sa iyo.
16.Baka hindi ka rin matino.
17.Kung nalaman mo na may iba BREAK MO AGAD!!!
or matyr ka naman tanggapin mo na lang siya.
18.Baka naman hindi mo siya pinapakinggan gusto mo ikaw lagi ang masusunod.
Parang ang labo talaga kung luv ka talaga nung guy at least open siya sa iyo kung ano ang ginagawa niya coz ayaw niyang maworried ka.
IMO ka lang.




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